Relationships!

Hey everyone,

It's nice to be back after a while!

I recently saw movie called Hitch, and that was all about Hitch giving ideas to men on how to successfully meet and date women and eventually get involved. I don't want to get into the movie, although I did think it was too idealistic and sugary. Things don't happen between men and women as magically as the movie would have us believe.

The truth is that the very nature of meeting men and women is a very complex issue. Most of the times the guys and girls would go out to impress the opposite sex, and many times are unsuccessful. I can remember when I was in High School, there were four couples in my class who we all thought were madly in love with one another. Come graduation time, all of them have split up. So why did you all hang out in the first place? When in High School, I think it is more cooler to have friends who are girls as opposed to having girlfriends. Most guys, moreso than the girls, are still immature in High School. They are still teenagers, with raging hormones, and girls, if you are out there, these guys don't look at you with respect: they look at you some kind of sexual objects, like a prized trophy who they can show off to others!

I am not saying everyone is like that; there are some genuine guys out there who genuinely seek out girls to date. Which brings us to another issue: dating. Is dating all right? I think it is, as long as the motives and context are sincere. I mean, I would not date a girl, hang out with here one-to-one, in some secluded area for the sole purpose of just hanging out. But I know some people who date in groups and whose motives are pure: they are looking for a potential spouse.

I think one important thing to keep in mind is that the girl/ guy you date could very well be someone else's wife/ husband. Don't believe what the movies have to tell you about dating, relationships and love, because that is very shallow and only a short term thing. I strictly believe in no sex before marriage, yet some of my friends out there clearly think so otherwise: we are gonna get married anyways, so why can't we have sex? We have been going out for four years, so sex feels all right! What's wrong with sex, we love each other! Folks, you are not married, that's the problem. What if something happens few days before marriage and fate leads you two somewhere else?

I can speak for myself. All the qualities that I would look for in my wife, are those qualities which I feel I possess. I would want my wife to be someone who has not dated and been involved in numerous relationships. I want keep myself pure for my wife, and I would like my future wife to do the same for me.

All right guys, I better sign off before someone claims I fell down from Heaven!

Mansur